Uhhh When Is Me Time?????

So when is me time??? I know every mom can relate to that question. A time to enjoy a moment with another adult....someone who speaks your language. Don't get me wrong loving kids is what we do and when having one its a commitment...you don't get to throw your hands in the air and say 'ok that's enough ten years is enough, I've enjoyed the kid long enough'. Its until death....I know some say its till they turn 18 or until they move out but ties don't get cut. No matter if they are out of the nest you will receive those phone calls 'what should I do' and 'oh my gosh you wouldn't believe'. Problems with siblings still exist and guess who gets to still be the referee....yep. So yeah there is a need for me time sometimes....it can get overwhelming. So the key is and should be scheduling....your life as a family should already have scheduling especially to prepare that child for adulthood and to plan flat out keep sanity. There is nothing as unromantic as scheduling a night of passion....but you have to think of others in your life. I believe there is not a problem once in a while doing something something at the last minute but you have to remember their your kids and your responsibility. While you might find a babysitter that would like the extra cash...its rude and intrusive on their lives to say at the last minute can you be here in an hour please drop everything.
So the point while we might need me time from time to time don't expect it....other people have lives just as you do and while you might feel you have a sense of entitlement to the me time you really don't. When it comes to those points when you need a break read your fav book while your child watches their fav movie. It may not be going out but it is me time on a level. An remember they grow fast cherish the moments, and schedule a mini vacation once in a while. If you can't afford a mini vacation go to your local or not so local coffee house an order a tea and read a book...a tea is soooo much less then a coffee...well unless your just getting a regular coffee...lol. So you have your cheap and peaceful day spent reading.
Personally I am looking at getting 5 Shades of Gray...I know but I'm interested what the hype is. Well have a great day got to get back to cleaning....lol...woke up early for some reason and was in the cleaning mood....lol but kids are sleeping and so is dog...so perfect time to get it done. Try to wake up an hour of even a half an hour before your children to get some cleaning done....or if your a night owl take a half an hour to clean up.

I Spy With My Little Eye....crocodile tears

Well it looks like going to the library and getting the I Spy book was a great idea. Some things we are not familiar with we will say, especially the 6 yr old but we also developed another idea to make the game more enjoyable an educational....google search bar. So whenever we need to figure out what something is or just for fun you search for the image of the word. We had fun for almost the whole book an then it was 'Ok I think I've had enough' lol. This all happen after a massive aray of crocodile tears that lead to the giveup and needing quality time. Translation: Tantrum with full blown fake tears leads to regrete and the needing of attention. Which is healthy. Kids need to know that they are not boss. Let them cry their crocodile tears. When you don't give in they will realize there is no ground to stand on and they will not feel in control like when they are hovered over when they let out one little sound. There is always a struggle for domanance, for control with our kids. It is our resposiblity to stand our ground and know how to set limits as not to push them away but not to raise them above us.

I remember a time that my mom would have to hold my nephew in a hug untill he calmed down....then it was you want me to hold you? He is a cuddler now but when he's mad he hates to be confined. A bucking bronco that boy is....wanting to be wild and free with no restraints. As a society we need those restraints...those fences....I won't go into society and the government. LOL. Lets just put it as I believe we have rights and one of those rights is to raise our children to our best ablility. An to sometimes deal with the crocodile tears.

The Question of the Day....

Is it ever to late? For what you say....how about anything. Love, school, career choice or change, children, marrige...life. At what point is it to late for something or is it ever to late. We go through life and put things off and wait till we think there is no hope. Are we putting it off in hopes that that we will fun out of time. I am one that believe that yes there are limits but there is usually a way when there is a will. There are people that are doing extreme sports beyond their age limit. An there are parents breaking out of the box with new found ideas and material for children and parents everyday.
It's about learning and moving with the flow but its also about not. If we learned and moved only with the flow then we...well we have all been a victim of a traffic jam...lol. The stop and go....and even some accidents in the middle of it all. Sometimes going another direction is the way to go, you get another view, sometimes of the trafffic jam; but most of the times you get another view that gives different insight an usually better timing. I have always been one for if its ment to be it will be. Fate has a way of coming out the way it was ment to be with or without your help. There is a time a place for anything and everything. That is how the will of a person can present a way.